Do you support equal rights? Of course you do. You believe women deserve the same rights as men. But do you understand everything that goes into equality? It's not as simple as gender. It's also race, education, socioeconomic status, geography and so much more.
In this powerful book of essays, professor and author Roxane Gay examines the various ways in which the world and society hamper the feminist fight. External forces tell us "feminist" is a bad word; they tell us the right when, where and how of the struggle; they love to tell us when the ways we try just aren't good enough.
Whether you identify as feminist or not, if you're crusading for equal rights, there's always someone trying to stop you or someone telling you you're not doing it right. Gay is here to tell you your efforts are valid and valuable, no matter how flawed you may be.
I have the privilege of covering instances in which women are mistreated in the Chicago technology community through my job as a reporter at the Chicago Tribune's Blue Sky Innovation section. I've seen panels featuring only men discussing women's place in the working world, sexist party advertisements and female-focused programs in male-dominated workspaces, whose utility is oft-debated by the community.
By following and telling these stories, I hope I am contributing to a conversation that will move this community toward equality. But I get frustrated when I hear the same people lamenting the discrimination they face apologize for fighting it. I don't want to rock the boat, but...
When I saw Gay at a reading in Chicago last month, I was struck by the casualness of her conviction. She was not asking for anyone's permission to support feminism, and she certainly wasn't apologizing to anyone for doing so. What Gay demonstrated in that reading and in her excellent collection of essays is that the arguments for feminism are so clear, so obvious they need not be arguments at all.
Bad Feminist combines pop culture commentary, media and literary criticism and personal essays that range from hilarious to searing. There is so much to learn from the stories and examples laid out in this book, even for those of us who already identify as feminist. I was introduced to new facets of female suffering I hadn't known, and I pray I never will. I gathered ammunition for future conversations centering on women's rights. And I got permission to pursue feminism in my own way, selective though it may be. Now, knowing more, I can strive to support a more inclusive change.
I started out making hot pink meringue cookies for this book. The message: Feminism is a long, hard fight (and this is a long, hard recipe), but what matters in the end is working through it and not apologizing for doing it your way. You can be a feminist, especially a Bad Feminist, and still love hot pink.
Of course, the recipe was a total fail and I couldn't figure out what I'd done wrong. Frustration is a mild word for how I felt after I removed four trays of sticky, gooey lumps from the oven.
I thought I'd start over, but then I thought, There's a lesson in this. I tried, I failed and now I'm beating myself up for it. That's not what this is about. It's about doing your absolute best at every moment you can but being able to forgive yourself for failing. My forgiveness just happened to take the form of sprinkle-dipped marshmallows that I bet would be delicious in s'mores.
- 12 marshmallows (I use these non-pork ones)
- 1/3 packet of raspberry-flavored Candy Melts
- Rainbow nonpariels sprinkles
- Lollipop sticks
Poke lollipop sticks halfway into marshmallows and set aside.
In a microwave or over a double-boiler, melt Candy Melts and place in a disposable bowl. Since Candy Melts are so sticky, this will save you from ruining a proper bowl when the candy coating starts to harden. Pour nonpariels into a separate bowl.
Holding the lollipop stick, dip marshmallow in Candy Melts coating then immediately dip in nonpariels. Repeat for each marshmallow.
Insert completed sprinkle-dipped marshmallows into a decorating stand or a block of styrofoam. Place in refrigerator for 10 to 15 minutes, or until candy hardens. Then, store at room temperature.